I have been in a devastating situation, or to put it mildly have been in the depths of despair. However, I am now turning things around and getting back to my former self and feeling confident to get on with life again. Thank you Sandy - you have taken me from feeling worthless to becoming 110% human again! I go to my PP 50 times every morning (about 1 hour) and one day I lost my PP totally. I started to see my PP filled up with a radiating white glowing light and now I can no longer see my PP - only light. However I am not worried about this as I know it is there, along with that feeling that defies logical explanation.
Today I have started to set goals again but this time I'm doing it your way and it's working! I have read many books and attended many seminars dealing with goals and self help but none of them speak about the How and Why as your books and tapes do, taking you through the necessary procedures to achieve goals and more importantly get rid of stress on the way.
When I did your seminar, I was a "victim" of deep seated rage and had been "suffering" depression for many years.
Sandy, from the few brief hours I spent with you, I learned to move into Alpha, and that gave me the immediate relief from years of depression. For more than three years prior to that weekend, I had been more or less suicidal depending on my sense of lack. The instant I felt myself experience the capacity to move to Alpha, the depression as an overall experience lifted. Then I have been able to make my S.E's (???) more effective.
Now the rage is dissipated, and I am developing a way of relating to anger that is healthy.
Story from T.L. NSW.
Here is a wonderful story about Cathy which really illustrates releasing hurt using the power of pretence when tapping your Inner Strength – or, if you like – illustrates the fact that the subconscious mind does not know the difference between imagination or reality. Just pretending something will work is enough – contrary to many peoples' opinion – you do not have to believe that the techniques work, just pretend that they work to have it work in your life. Cathy has been an inspiration to many people suffering from depression. Thanks Cathy for letting me share your inner strength.
Cathy attended the seminar and told me that she had not come for herself but had come totally for her mother who was so ill that she was unable to attend herself. At the end of the seminar I asked her how things were and she told me she didn't care what happened to her, even if a truck ran over her on the way home. She told me she had clinical depression and she was stuck with it. She had come here only to see what she could do for her mother, who had cancer. When she got home she started to teach her mother what to do and what she had learnt.
Very soon after that Catherine had to have a mammogram and the result wasn't good. She was told she had a big lump in her left breast and had to go into hospital in three days time.
She asked if it would hurt because she had a low pain tolerance and feared pain. They said it would. She would have to have a wire inserted into the breast, to the lump, without anaesthetic so that the doctor could follow it to the lump. The wire had to penetrate about three centimetres. Once the lump was located Cathy would receive an anaesthetic. She thought she may as well try the Peaceful Place method – even though she didn't believe it would work for her. She had nothing to lose.
For the next few days, a hundred times each day, she visualised that the wire was inserted easily and painlessly, just like a spoon into yoghurt and affirmed “this feels great”. She imagined the lump was cut out painlessly, with a successful outcome. After she had done the visualisation for about a day she thought, “I know what I'm going to do. I'm going to put all my sadness, pain, injustice, anger and bitterness that led to my depression, into this lump and as the lump gets cut out it's going to free me of all my depression and I'm going to feel absolutely fantastic.”
So it all happened as she visualised. It was not, however, until the wire was painlessly inserted did Catherine actually believe. BUT, before that moment, she pretended really well. When the wire was inserted it didn't hurt at all and the lump turned out to be benign.
Not only that, but she came to another one of my seminars after that. She was a different woman, glowing, happy, the depression completely gone! She said, “I've been diagnosed as having clinical depression for years, but now it's worked so well for me. I know how powerful it is and I'm working with the Peaceful Place techniques all the time. It's just a question of attitude and how you talk to yourself.”
Story from J.L. NZ
I attended your seminar 6 months ago in NZ and basically my life has changed more in the last 6 months than the last 6 years with respect to mental thoughts. I suffer from PTSD and double depression (ongoing dysthymia with natural bad experiences in life) I am a very troubled person in my head a lot of the time, but this has improved significantly recently.
Several factors that I've put it down to: started on Prozac 2 months ago and having a good result, meditation and my religion.
Going to church once a week has proven great in my healing and being able to gain trust in humans again, as I was terribly bullied as a child, by other kids at my school and hence have PTSD. The PTSD had reduced significantly due to openly talking about my thoughts! I've been in therapy now for 6months and fully recommend it!
Your seminar changed my life in that it helped me in my healing. I still have a lot of the ugly stuff to deal with, like nightmares, Umm actually I'm quite horrified at how long I had been in depression for, there is a lot of processing still to be done. Thank you very much.
Story from B.C. Vic
Thank you so much for the great seminar - it really did rescue me from the depths of hurt and sadness. I'm 'doing' the tapes on forgiveness, hurt and sleep and they've helped. I've been speaking with some of my other friends and one in particular has seen the huge improvement in my whole outlook. Both friends are impressed with what they hear and they want to attend your next seminar.
Below is an exchange of communication which I had with a seminar participant who was following up about Depression:
I am writing to you in the hope that you might be able to offer me some advice. I did the CALM Life Skills Seminar a while ago and have found that I got a lot out of it. I have been focusing on a healing goal around a health problem, namely depression, which I have had off and on for more than 20 years now. I have a firm belief that I can use the tools from the workshop, primarily going to Peaceful place and working on the goal with my emotional anchor etc., to get to a point where I can live depression free.
Sandy: Good one!
I have however had a few problems recently, with the depression with anxiety resurfacing again. There are a number of symptoms that I instantly recognize, that are a kind of precursor to a full on bout. Without going into too much detail these include anxiety with feelings of irritability, confusion, forgetfulness and an inability to plan tasks and make decisions. Often even simple chores such as cleaning and cooking seem like huge tasks. Though I must explain that these don't happen in a flash or necessarily happen concurrently but rather kind of build over time or coexist by degrees and often come and go at different times of the day. I have a fairly high pressure job and these symptoms tend to lead to further anxiety and, in the past, a kind of a spiral downward begins which leads to a full-blown bout of depression.
Sandy: At each time that you have symptoms of irritability then that's the time, immediately, to use your "circuit breaker" - in other words, your "Peaceful Place" (PP). Basically you're using this as an interrupt mechanism, telling yourself that you're aware of being irritable and that you CAN do something about it.
I have worked on a couple of goals since the seminar, the first was focusing on the words " I am powerfully experiencing positive and clear thinking" I found this to be highly effective, especially in matters surrounding work. After about a couple of months I switched to another goal which I felt was highly relevant and a bit broader. Initially I worked with the words " I am motivated, energetic and enthusiastic about life." I worked on this for several weeks visualizing my joy and energy in a number of areas of my life. However I found a lot of negative thoughts and self talk increasingly arose. After discussing this with my partner, who had also taken the workshop, she pointed out that there wasn't a strong emotional element to this goal. I
then modified it to include the word joyously so that it now is "I am joyously motivated, energetic and enthusiastic about life"
Sandy: I think that the approach you've taken is fine - even including the word "joyously". Remember, you have been working with depression for 20 years - it is likely that it will take a little while to completely eradicate it. I have heard of a high profile businessman battling depression, whereby he says that he has learned techniques that he can use to handle his depression. Apparently he still sometimes has 2 or 3 days at a time of depression and I understand that he stays at home during this time, using the techniques much more frequently. He has said that the frequency of the bouts of depression is decreasing. To me, I think that by you continually using PP and Goals, plus positive self-talk, this will have a cumulative, beneficial effect. Please don't be disappointed if you appear to "regress" at times. Just know that you will overcome it.
I have worked on this goal going to peaceful place five times a day, applying my emotional anchor while visualizing myself being energetic and joyous in a variety of areas of my life for at least three weeks now. However there seems to be an increase in the types of aforementioned
symptoms that I have experienced and I really want to avoid getting into a deep depression. I have, as I have said, continued to work with my goal regularly and so I am having a variety of mixed feelings including doubts, misgivings and questions, which have prompted me to write to you.
Sandy: Keep doing this and the answer above this paragraph is relevant.
I should mention, that I had been on medication prior to taking the workshop but had decided to stop taking it as I felt a need to prove that it was clearly the goal, and my own will power that will make this work for me.
Sandy: Congratulations ! This is an enormous step. Have you acknowledged what you've done and congratulated "your child within" ? By the way, I have heard other people tell me that they have found it helpful to go back onto a reduced level of medication on occasions when they appear to have a particularly challenging spell - I don't know if this is relevant to you, perhaps you should discuss it with your doctor ?
Is it usual for the subconscious to fight so hard and to throw up challenges to my goal in the way that the depression symptoms might reappear in a kind of last-ditch fight to throw me off my goal focus? Or, am I missing the point with something around the goal and healing and not working it in the correct way?
Sandy: Yes, this is absolutely normal - remember, you've had depression for 20 years, it might take a while to overcome it. Keep up the good work.
How can your techniques be used with depression
I would always start from self talk, goals, meditation and all of this geared towards replacing the negative habits with the positive habits. I really want to emphasise the importance of self talk . Becoming aware of precisely how we talk to ourselves is extremely important. Unfortunately (or fortunately) ... we listen to ourselves, and we talk to ourselves 50 to 60,000 times a day. Once we become aware of any negative talk whatsoever, we must do something about it. It's negative self talk which affects self confidence and self esteem which can drive you down into depression. I encourage people to start on a system of recognising self talk and changing it every time to be positive, this will help. It seems so simple and yet it has far reaching and dramatic effects.
It is really important to work with goals because it's from the goal that motivation will develop. You are expanding your Comfort Zone with whatever it is you want to achieve, and remember, moving towards the goal is where happiness comes from. In addition I do believe that meditation is a very powerful tool to help overcome depression. All these topics are covered in my two-day CALM Life Skills Seminar.
I have registered for your seminar and I would like to know what I can start doing now, about my depression, as it is a few months before I see you?
What I believe is that when you recognise a life challenge, or issue which is holding you back, (which you do) then you're 50% of the way through the challenge. The next 25% is saying - Yes, I want to do something about it. So you are 75% of the way through - congratulations. The remaining 25% is doing it - which is what you're asking about - and that's where my CALM Life Skills methods help.
Here are some alternate ways and some specific advice as to how you can use my tools and techniques to help with anxiety and depression.
1. Buy the video of the 3-hour seminar - "Relax and Release Stress in 30 Seconds" at a cost of $66. This will physically teach you how to relax and release stress quickly.
2. To gain further understanding about the mind and work with goals, buy the book "Piece of Mind" ($22). You will need this to work with goals because having goals will help pull you out of depression, create motivation and help with positive self talk.
3. Read my book "Switch On to Your Inner Strength" ($22) and do the tape PP#5 - Meditation ($20).
There is a paper about Depression on my website with further advice as to a way forward with depression - make sure you read Cathy's story (Cathy's doctor diagnosed Clinical Depression).