Loving and forgiving can both be real challenges in life. Whether one works with forgiveness before working with unconditional love or vice versa matters little - it really is personal choice and there are no hard and fast rules as to the order or sequence. Loving the person or the situation that has wronged you, can be a terribly difficult thing to do. Many people may want to make a bargain that goes something like this, 'OK! I'm prepared to forgive. Now I've done the right thing ...... But love? ....... Why do I actually have to love? .... That's going a bit far isn't it!?'