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MeditationOne of the best ways that I can show you the approach is to repeat a MIND MATTERS NEWS written some time ago - here it is.
1. Yourself as you achieve your new habit, and,
2. All the reasons why you want the new habit.
Goal setting
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Learn how to bring about positive changes in your life by learning techniques of goal setting, how to set effective and achievable goals for career and life goals.
That really is what the CALM Centre is all about - bringing about positive change. The methods used are Creative Accelerated Learning Methods - hence C A L M!
Introduction
Helping people to change habits easily by working with goals, effectively, and without stress is what my work is all about. Hundreds of thousands of people now understand the methods I teach through my books, tapes and seminars and their positive stories of success are my reward. The tools and techniques are easy to learn and to apply. Each time people use the "Changing Habits" techniques, they are relaxing and focusing on an issue in their lives they wish to improve.
In our lives many of our habits work well for us, but some cease being helpful and may even work against us, limiting our potential. If we can keep doing what "works for us" and replace habits that are not working for us with habits that do work, we will enjoy a better quality of life.
What I am about to explain is a system to change habits or acquire better habits, which is scientifically based, easy to practise, takes very little time and has been proven by tens of thousands of people to really work. To implement the system there is an online audio tape.
A Four Step System - It's Easy To Do!
Here are the four steps of the system that can change habits, written in a way that I think can be easily understood. (Note that the word "goal" is often interchangeable with "new habit"). You will then find the steps explained in detail.
First Step: Learn to relax and focus in 30 seconds.
Second Step: State your new habit in Positive, Personal and Present Tense language.
Third Step: Visualise the end result of achieving your new habit.
Fourth Step: Emotionalise the new habit - this is a visualisation process that triggers positive emotion and is a key in the system of changing habits.
Fast Track
For those wanting to fast track this system, thanks to modern technology, you can play a CD called Peaceful Place Tape No 2 - Guided Imagery which will teach you Steps 1 and 4 above. It will take you through all the steps so that you can start work towards getting what you want with all your power.
Detail For The First Step
Learn to relax and focus in 30 seconds. What is the benefit? The quick answer is to get into our memory. Our memory is in our deeper, inner mind where all our habits are stored. When we relax, we go to a brainwave state which opens the door to our memory. This brainwave state is called Alpha. Steps 2, 3 and 4 all happen in the relaxed state, in "memory" (which is where you can create new habits faster). You will learn to relax in 30 seconds using the first side of the tape - a Peaceful Place Tape No. 2 - Guided Imagery.
Detail For The Second Step
State what you want in positive, personal language - and use the present tense. Why is it so necessary to use positive language? Your mind does not process negative commands. For example, it will process "don't forget your umbrella" into "forget your umbrella". It will process "don't worry" into "worry". It ignores the word "don't" and only retains the action words "forget" or "worry".
Also if you use negative self talk or ask yourself negative questions such as "Why me?", for that is what often happens in our mind, then you begin to focus on guilt and negative feelings and this becomes self fulfilling and you will feel more negative.
Let's go even further. In some ways, it seems the job of the deeper inner mind is to keep you where you are now, in your comfort zone. Your inner mind does not desire change, it is comfortable with all your habits irrespective of whether they are good or bad for you. In some ways it is like a computer, it simply accepts the programs you choose to install.
The good news is that you can help towards changing the programs or habits in your inner mind with good, positive supportive self talk such as: when stressed - to achieve relaxation: "I am wonderfully calm and relaxed"; when negative - to achieve being positive: "I enjoy always speaking positively".
Please know that to change your habits, you need to combine all four steps of the system as one process. This system is about implanting thoughts such as these in your deeper, inner mind.
The Third Step
Visualise the end result of attaining your new habit. (Visualisation can be with any or all of the five senses, plus imagination and talking to yourself). You visualise yourself achieving and feeling good, remembering all the reasons why you want this new habit. Visualising the end result is an extremely important step, for it sets up the feelings of success.
The main points for this step to be carried out successfully are:-
* You visualise with as many senses as you are able to and include imagination and talking to yourself.
* You visualise ...
* When visualising the reasons for your new habit, do so as though you have already achieved it ... feeling pleased that you have done so (this means that you are using the Present Tense in this process).
This sets up the good feeling - let this successful feeling flow right through you.
The Fourth Step
Emotionalise your new habit.
Do this by a visualisation process that triggers a strong, positive emotional feeling for you. This is a key part of the "changing habits" system . Why do we use emotion? Strong emotions go directly into memory, which is in the the subconscious mind - emotion is the "language" it understands. Have you ever wondered why you remember all the good and bad things in your life with such clarity and ease? It's because of the emotion triggered by these events. Words, sounds and pictures are the "language" of the conscious mind.
Any kind of good, positive emotion when combined with your positive statement and your visualisation of the success of the new habit, in the relaxed state, will help you achieve it faster. By using an Emotional Anchor you will add to a strong, positive emotional feeling, which is initially generated in your visualisation of success. The four steps need to be repeated in sequence, until your new habit is firmly implanted in your memory. This needs to be continued on a regular basis, so your bad old habits don't return. You will learn about how to build an Emotional Anchor on Side 2 of the Tape - PP#2.
Why Is Visualisation So Vital?
There is a very important reason why you need to visualise yourself achieving your new habit. One of the most surprising things about the deeper inner mind (the subconscious mind) is that it cannot tell the difference between a vividly imagined experience and what has really happened to you. The process of visualising in great detail (with all the right conditions as described in Steps 1 to 4) is accepted by the inner mind as a real experience, because it does NOT know the difference between imagination and reality.
After the subconscious mind has accepted your repeated vividly imagined experiences of achieving your new habit, then the subconscious along with the conscious mind, work together to help you to do what needs to be done to achieve your new habit. Just keep practising the four steps and within a short time the new habit you are visualising will start to take over from the old habit you wanted to change. Also - your resultant self talk (the talk that goes on inside your head day-to-day) will be more positive and supportive. Your repeated visualisation of the imagined experience of achieving your new habit is the key to changing deeply ingrained behaviour.
Dispelling Negative Thoughts
Here's a helpful hint to dispel negative thoughts that just pop into our minds. Acknowledge the thought and congratulate yourself on being aware of it (if you are not aware of it then you can't do anything about it).
Next step is to let the thought go. My wife Sandra, just lets out a big breath, blowing the thought away from her. In my seminars, I suggest letting the thought out through the top of your head and then watch it going up and away from you - or onto an escalator that is going away from you.
Or, replace the negative thought by saying your new habit immediately.
In closing this article, at any time, or when you have used and proved the system, please pass on this information (or the link) to others you care about and ask them what they think about it. Most people want new ideas that are easy to understand, don't take much time and most importantly have been proven to work.
Good luck putting these techniques into practice.
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