Dealing with Anger

Aspects of Anger

Karen's earliest family memories were of fear when her dad (Jim) was in one of his moods. Drinking didn't help and often it was the trigger; his rage was mostly taken out on Mum (Mary) who ended up bruised and battered, "... but for us kids, we had to hide and not get in the way." Mum swore she would leave him, but never did. Why? "Because Dad loved Mum and us kids. He would buy us presents, take us out, bring Mum flowers, cuddle Mum ... and then it would happen all over again.

"Grandad (Geoff) dad's dad, was also like that and didn't often come around ... when he did, Dad seemed to be a different person - like a lamb, meek and mild, especially when Grandad was raving at him."

Karen grew up and lived with Frank who was "just like Dad". She ran away to another state and met and married Greg - who turned out to be worse than Frank.

Karen's story is not unique. We will examine some aspects of just how debilitating anger can be, and will also come up with some solutions. Let me start by saying that anger is a personal issue and must be resolved personally. Nobody can do it for you. If you recognise it as an issue in your life and you want to do something about it, then there is a way forward.

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Overcoming Anger

Anger normally originates before the incident occurs. Naural process used in self treament of anger is to learn how the process of anger forms.

Overcoming Anger

Story from M.R, NSW

My husband and I wanted to thank you so much for the opportunity to learn so much at the Life Skills Seminar. It was everything I had hoped for and more. The fact that my husband released an old torment that had been festering inside for many years is a credit to your ability to express the techniques in simple terms (that even left-brainers can grasp) in a non-threatening and non-judgemental atmosphere. I quite surprised myself during a meditation when some old childhood 'stuff' surfaced as anger, and I realised I had not fully dealt with some of the issues that I thought, mistakenly, had been laid to rest. I am now working on it. In fact we have both been working on our PP and various goals and although early, the results are beginning to show. I would recommend anyone young or old to do Life Skills — the secrets of the Ages have been lost for too long. Thanks again Sandy and we are both looking forward to the CHI seminar when next held.

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Story from M.M. NSW

Sandy I want to thank you for the opportunity to attend your Active Meditation Seminar which not only assisted me as an individual but also helped with my marriage. Initially I mainly went to support my wife, however I had a lot of anger within myself and felt it completely drain away during the afternoon

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I also found it hard to believe that one could find answers to problems in the Alpha state - until proving it with the soothing sound of your voice and music on the Meditation CDs. I have lived with a chronic illness my entire life, which I inherited, and was on the brink of giving up the battle and "letting nature take it's course" when I heard your interview on Radio and about the remarkable work you were doing to help other people.

My main reason for wanting to attend your Seminar was that I had hoped my son would accompany me. He has deep-seated anger, road-rage etc. and without taking up any more of your precious time suffice to say he has "attended" your 2 Day Life Skills Seminar on the DVDs with remarkable results - I also loaned him your book "Switch on to your inner strength" (I have read many books through the years on this theme but none with so much clarity and ease of understanding as yours) he listens to your Guided Imagery CD and rang me to tell me he is now sleeping better than he has in 3 years

My sincere thanks and best wishes . SM, NSW

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Both my son and I attended your 2 day seminar in Crows Nest many years ago. At the time my son was in early high school. I thought it would assist him in coping with adolescent life with Aspergers as well as helping with his concentration/studies. He has never forgotten the seminar and used his peaceful place to get through many confounding situations as a teenager. O.B. NSW

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Anger is overwhelming me just lately and I was wondering what advice you have to help me control it?

There are so many things, I don't know just quite where to start. Have you read the link to Anger on the Home Page of this website? Self love and self esteem, along with lack of forgiveness could be issues. Relationships - often with others, but more often with ourselves, can trigger anger and this can stem from emotional issues such as blame, guilt, judgements, frustration ... and more. I know that I had a huge issue with anger, which was all part of my grief process.

Anger is one of life's great challenges which touches all of us at some time in our life. If one continues to allow anger to be an issue in one's life, without doing something about it, then it can have severe consequences, including impaired health. Who wants to be angry all their lives? And remember basically we're doing it to ourselves.

Anger can become like a habit which is deeply embedded in the subconscious mind - it's the subconscious mind that we have to work with. There are a couple of tools that you can start with - perhaps the book "Switch On To Your Inner Strength" and maybe the meditation tapes (or CDs): PP9 - Letting Go Anger, PP13 - Inner Peace & Harmony and PP10 - Self Worth & Confidence. A suggested program is:

1. Buy "Piece of Mind" Pack - read the book and do the exercises. Keep practising getting to your "Peaceful Place" fast (this will be explained in the book).

2. Buy the tape (or CD) "A Peaceful Place No. 9 - Letting Go Anger". Do side 1 of this tape (or Track 1 on the CD) and then do side 2 every day (you will be doing side 2 of this tape whilst you are reading and doing the exercises from the "Piece of Mind" book) - my guess is that you would do this for about a month.

Note that I have not addressed relaxation - this will come automatically by using both the tapes mentioned plus the Piece of Mind Pack.

If you are able to attend a CALM Life Skills Seminar in your area it would also address the anger issues.

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Story from M.R, NSW

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assist him in coping

Anger is overwhelming me just lately and I was wondering what advice you have to help me control it?

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