I recently received an email from a mentor of mine, Terry Tillman, all about this topic. In 1988 I spent 6 weeks at an Insight IV course in Los Angeles which, amongst other things, taught how to be a Facilitator. Terry was great - and I had the opportunity to work with him in Australia. Terry has given his permission to use his material even though I am to use it "piecemeal" and slightly modified. Thank you Terry! His website is http://www.227company.com.
The transition from December to January, one year to the next, the old to the new is a time when many of us review and resolve. I consider myself extremely fortunate to have the time right now to follow up recommendations from others regarding tools of visualisation - something I have been wanting to do for a long time. I consider this so important that I want to recommend that you have a look at it. There is a little more information in the PS below - take a look at it - I am sure you will be as delighted as I am.
Completing The Old and Renegotiating With Yourself
Terry Tillman suggests that with good intentions we acknowledge where we fell short in the past year and voice those good intentions, goals and objectives for the coming 12 months.
Early in this process of reviewing the past year it’s a good idea to acknowledge what you are grateful for (you might like to refer to my previous Mind Matters News titled Love, Gratitude, Appreciation and the Quantum World.) With an attitude of gratitude there is automatic abundance.
Every agreement or promise you make and every action you've started that is not completed, requires a little piece of your consciousness and energy, usually unconsciously. So a next step is to reclaim some of that energy. List all incompletions and decide what you intend to do to complete them. Eliminate or re-chose and re-commit. Often it's as simple as declaring completion - just saying "It's done", or "I'm not going to do that ."
For example, if you’re in the middle of looking at or reading three books, then close two of the books and put them back on the bookshelf. Done. Complete! Energy reclaimed. Later you can choose again to read them. If you want to.
Much of the stress experienced in business and personal lives is the result of over committing - agreeing to do more than can be done well, thoroughly, enjoyably and in a balanced manner in the time allotted. I've found that if I want to have less stress, I need to learn when to say "no" and be more selective in my choices and agreements.
Some completions may take a little more effort and time. Some can be renegotiated (with yourself, or someone else if they are involved). KEEP YOUR AGREEMENTS! Do what you say you are going to do.
Agreements With Yourself
If you are experiencing low self-esteem, lack of trust, low confidence, deteriorating relationships, low energy ... look to your agreements. Chances are you're over-committing and/or not keeping them.
As it is the beginning of 2010, and this is the time of the year when people make resolutions ... to lose weight, start an exercise program, play and laugh more, risk more, travel, relax and pause more, take that speed reading class, spend more time with your children, write a book, eat healthier food, learn a new language. These are all agreements with ourselves. And if we don't keep them, we automatically suffer the consequences of low self-esteem, lack of trust, low confidence, deteriorating relationships, low energy. Automatically.
Some Thoughts on a Way Forward
For those of you who want more form and structure, here are some questions that can guide you in your review of 2009 and 2010 goal setting. When I go through these kinds of questions I like to consider my answers in several areas:
Completing and Remembering 2009
What was your biggest triumph in 2009?
What was the smartest decision you made in 2009?
What one word best sums up and describes your 2009 experience?
What was the greatest lesson you learned in 2009?
What was the most loving service you performed in 2009?
What is your biggest piece of unfinished business in 2009?
What are you most happy about completing in 2009?
Who were the three people that had the greatest impact on your life in 2009?
What was the biggest risk you took in 2009?
What was the biggest surprise in 2009?
What important relationship improved the most in 2009?
What compliment would you liked to have received in 2009?
What compliment would you liked to have given in 2009?
What else do you need to do or say to be complete with 2009?
What would you like to be your biggest triumph in 2010?
What advice would you like to give yourself in 2010?
What is the major effort you are planning to improve your financial results in 2010?
What would you be most happy about completing in 2010?
What major indulgence are you willing to experience in 2010?
What would you most like to change about yourself in 2010?
What are you looking forward to learning in 2010?
What do you think your biggest risk will be in 2010?
What about your work, are you most committed to changing and improving in 2010?
What is one as yet undeveloped talent you are willing to explore in 2010?
What brings you the most joy and how are you going to do or have more of that in 2010?
Who or what, other than yourself, are you most committed to loving and serving in 2010?
What one word would you like to have as your theme in 2010?
So Sandy, if you have done the CHI Seminar you will recognise many of the aspects to moving forward (outlined above) and will remember the importance of creating a balanced life ... to consider goals in many areas of our life. Good luck with your goals and have a great year.
All the best
PS. The Most Important Tool I Have Found
I know that it has been around for a while - but I have never made time to examine it. I have now, and I am so pleased that I can pass it on to you as a really useful tool of visualisation (and I need help in this area because, as most of you know, I don't "see" anything).
You make a movie of all your goals and play it to yourself each day - yes, while you are in Alpha and of course use your Emotional Anchor. There is so much on this system and I am pleased to say that in the interviews the same sort of language is used that I myself use. Can you imagine putting your "Life Purpose Now
" in a film for US $49? That's my intention.
There's more. Right now I have a subliminal movie playing in the background on my computer so that my subconscious sees it. The first month is free and then it costs $27 a month. Have a look at it at this link
- let me know what you think please.
With gratitude and love I thank you all for your friendship and support at Chi and beyond. This was a very special 5 days with you during a journey of focused self discovery. I learned a great deal from all of you and feel extremely grateful for this experience. What a blessing!
I wish you the best in achieving your goals and would love to stay in touch.
With Kindness, Love & Light, E.R. Qld.
Thank you for your Mind matters newsletters Sandy. I find they usually fit in with what is happening with me at the time. Since doing your course I have slowly made progress with my spiritual journey and life changing attitudes. This year I have been concentrating on caring for my own well being with more dedication and I know this will make me more competent to encourage others on self improvement. I am using a simple form of collage to go within and by journalling, bring that into an aware consciousness. So often we are so profoundly deaf even to ourselves, so by taking time to listen as you say we can "create happiness intentionally".
Thank you for being a significant part of my changed direction on my spiritual journey. May you continue to enjoy life and share with all you come in contact with. S.G. Qld.